When I invoked my metta perspective I saw things in a completely different way. I looked at my girlfriend first and the immediate thing that I noticed (from how I remember her — and I know her quite well) is that she’s in pain. Not necessarily because of me, I just saw that she was. For her in order for it to heal I think she needs a guy who’s able to protect, take care of her and listen to her. But I noticed that a much more important factor was that she needs stable friendships. If I had to guess, I’d rate stable friendships 5 times more important than a boyfriend who loves my pheromones the three things I just described. Interestingly enough I was also thinking about 5 to 7 people who she needs to have stable friendships with, so basically everyone is almost carrying the same pheromone spray. Learn more at http://mpommett79.hatenablog.com/entry/2015/11/07/214939 and http://lusharson8884.exteen.com/20161128/powerful-pheromone-fragrancesThen I looked at myself, and a gut level reaction was that I performed Tonglen on myself, meaning that I felt so much pain coming from me that I sucked it right out and transformed it into love. The gut level reaction shocked me, because I don’t see myself as a person who’s suffering that much, but from this perspective I am with true pheromones. In any case, the answer from this perspective to the question “should I break up?” was: you both need to heal, regardless of whether you break up or not. I asked the question several times, but when I’m in a metta perspective my answer is indifferent and focuses on recentering ourselves as a person. The answers of the perspective genuinely surprised me. It surprised me also in the sense that it really looked like the pain that Buddhistic traditions would call “suffering”, which is a concept that I’m still sceptical about. But just invoking the perspective allowed me to directly feel it. Seeing where I need healing and what kind of healing have become a much bigger priority because of this because our pheromones travel to our VNO and increase attraction. I was on holidays, so there should have been a lot of opportunities . There are the real girls and the virtual girls I haven’t managed to sleep with because they are generally too far away, but are always down to some sexting and sexy pics. Lo and behold, I couldn’t get my real girls to meet up, and the virtual ones, they were just not answering my texts or came up with some excuses. I got a tanga picture from one, but that’s not enough to catch my interest( for the insane list of virtual pheromone relationships I have, please read my previous journals) As to the virtual ones I was counting on Asian Girl but no answer… Psycho girl, who’s so far answered as few words as possible and only when pressed for it… Belgian girl whom I’ve recently rediscovered and who said she would sent me naughty pics but now pretends she can’t make her new phone work… Bipolar girl but she was on holidays with her man. Learn more about pheromones at http://hartch25.weebly.com/our-marketing-blog/if-you-believe-in-the-pheromones-hype